“Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love.”
Hello Dear Friend,
This month is Valentine’s Day, which speaks beautifully to expressing our love towards others but it also invites us to reflect on self-love.
What is self-love for you?
There are different ways of perceiving and living this concept or better birthright but what it comes down to is that we care about ourselves in a loving and nurturing way on a consistent basis.
Why? Because our love for ourselves is the basis, the foundation for our life, so much that all our relationships will be a reflection of how we care for ourselves.
What we attract into our life, what we are able to express in our relationships, work domains and generally in life is hugely depending on how we perceive and love ourselves.
Often our social or family conditioning is in the way of caring for ourselves on a consistent basis as it has taught us otherwise:
Only if we care for others first we are loved or are getting attention.
Only if we put our mother, father first and fulfill their needs, they will look at us.
Only if we have good grades, we will be rewarded and so on.
It is perceived as: If we do something (for others) we will be loved, rather than be and be loved as the miraculous being we are, unconditionally.
This of course is nobody’s fault.
Our selfless behavior without a basis in self-love may work for a while or even a long time but it eventually may end in a downwards spiral, exhausting us, taking so much from us that there is barely anything left to give. Even though we are doing this for noble reasons we are -if we are honest- also doing it to find love, running after it, as we need love so desperately. No wonder, when this is how we are programmed. And again, there is nobody at fault.
But eventually when we see that we are at the end of our rope, our cup is empty, there is nothing left to give to others. Maybe we experience physical symptoms, are emotionally exhausted…whatever it is, the question is, how can we change this cycle and learn to fill our cup first in order to generously and healthily give; learn to care for ourselves in a loving way, putting ourselves first, not in an egotistical way, not on the expense of others but as being in ‘awe’ of our miraculous existence.
And what does this really mean?
It means that we accept ourselves as we are, finding our innate goodness beyond “good” or “bad”, “right” or “wrong” but because we are a being of love. That is how we are created. We are love. Yes, take this in: you are love.
This may be a lifelong learning process, but we can start today with simple self-care practices to express our self-worth by switching our mindset and creating an environment for self-love.
What can you do to practice self-love?
Make a list of at least 5 things and implement them as often as you can. That is a great start.
Loving ourselves is a beneficial situation for everybody. It replenishes us with an inner happiness, confidence and peace of mind that is not easily achieved by outside events and opinions we learned to listen to. It enables us to make healthier choices and decisions across all areas of our life from our intimate relationships to our finances, because they are based in self-love. It enables us to genuinely be more loving towards others and to be of greater service to the world at large. Ultimately, the more we love ourselves, the more love will show up in our life, and everybody we encounter benefits from our loving spark that expresses our uniqueness.
If you want to dive deeper and learn about self-love practices or what is holding you back, book a session with me (maria-jansson.com) and I am happy to guide you through this deeply rewarding process.
Our next Sound Healing Evening will be on Wednesday, February 28th, at Hidden Springs Wellness Center, 1651 Siskiyou Blvd, Ashland OR.
Please come and join to dive into the sacred sound of these beautiful bowls and relax, come closer to your heart and stillness within. The bowls have a fine-tuned ability to work on the physical, emotional and energetic levels, clearing away stress and blockages, balancing the chakra system and re-organizing the auric field.
(Find more info at maria-jansson.com)
Please register at firstname.lastname@example.org or 5418404640. Space is limited!
Have a blessed time!
All my love,